Brave Young Man Loses Battle with Cancer in Mother’s Arms
A young man from Rocky Hill, Connecticut, lost his prolonged battle with glioblastoma, a form of brain cancer, at the age of 21. Ryder Scelza died in the arms of his mother, Linda Scelza, after she tenderly told him it was “OK to go.” This heartbreaking moment came on November 25, 2024, following a nearly three-year struggle that began in March 2022.
Ryder’s journey with glioblastoma involved multiple surgeries, hospitalizations, and a medically induced coma. Linda Scelza explained that after he emerged from the coma, he could no longer communicate but occasionally showed signs of recognition through laughter and smiles, especially when listening to his favourite music by Taylor Swift.
Fighting Against the Odds
Throughout his illness, Ryder demonstrated remarkable resilience. His mother noted that he “fought and fought” against the disease, which eventually rendered his tumors inoperable. As the family navigated the challenges of his condition, Ryder was cared for at Cobalt Healthcare and Rehabilitation Center for several months before returning home early in 2024.
Linda Scelza shared, “He could not communicate anymore after Christmas. But even in silence, he was waiting for me to tell him it was OK.” The bond between mother and son was profound, as she spent every night beside him, offering comfort and reassurance.
Ryder’s sister, Alyssa, expressed gratitude for being present during that final moment, believing it provided Ryder with the comfort he needed to let go. Linda recounted how she promised Ryder that he would be fine in heaven and would be reunited with family members who had passed away.
A Legacy of Love and Strength
Ryder’s spirit and determination left a lasting impact on those around him. His cousin, Alfred Scelza, highlighted Ryder’s wish for his family to continue living life to the fullest and to fight fearlessly against challenges. “He will always be remembered for being a fighter,” Alyssa reflected, underscoring her brother’s selfless nature and the love that motivated his fight.
Throughout his treatment, Ryder made specific requests for his funeral, including the release of butterflies and a horse-drawn carriage for his casket. His love for Disney and desire for women pallbearers further illustrated his unique personality and connections to those he cherished.
Linda Scelza dedicated herself to caring for Ryder over the past four years, foregoing work to ensure he received the attention he needed. Fortunately, Ryder’s twin brother, Reno, has been tested and shows no signs of glioblastoma.
Ryder’s journey garnered recognition at Gaylord Specialty Healthcare, where staff members used music, particularly Taylor Swift’s songs, to motivate him during his recovery. A representative from the facility noted, “Ryder touched the lives of every person who had the privilege of meeting him.”
In his memory, his family emphasized his message of resilience: “never give up.” Despite the challenging circumstances, Ryder’s story serves as an inspiration to others facing similar battles.
As the family grieves, they find solace in the love and strength that Ryder embodied throughout his life. His legacy will continue to resonate, reminding all to cherish their loved ones and fight for what matters most.
